This message was preached at Woodvale Baptist Church on Sunday the 15th of October 2017.
In Through the Looking Glass, Lewis Carroll describes a conversation between Alice and Humpty Dumpty on the topic of words and their meaning. It goes like this:
“I don’t know what you mean by ‘glory’,” Alice said.
Humpty Dumpty smiled contemptuously. “Of course you don’t—till I tell you. I meant ‘there’s a nice knock-down argument for you!'”
“But glory’ doesn’t mean ‘a nice knock-down argument,'” Alice objected.
“When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in rather a scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”
“The question is,” said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.”
“The question is,” said Humpty Dumpty, “Which is to be master—that’s all.”
One of the points being made by Humpty Dumpty is that the person who controls what words mean is also the person who controls the conversation.
I have been thinking a lot about “marriage” lately and what the word means.
Marriage has been defined as, “The social institution under which a man and woman live as husband and wife by legal or religious commitments.”
Dig a little deeper and you discover that our English word comes down to us via Latin and French and it has given rise to a number of humorous quotes on marriage such as marry in haste and repent at leisure and never marry for money, but marry where money is!
Based on the above, it would be easy to conclude that marriage is simply a contract, with possibly a few religious rites thrown in and depending on the person you marry, it could be a glad or sad experience!
God describes marriage as something far grander!
First, He paints us a picture of marriage being grounded in friendship and companionship.
“It is not good for man to be alone!” He declares, and so He creates Eve as the perfect counterpart for man in their journey through life together.
What is clear here is that it is God Who brings men and women together – It is He Who provides Eve for Adam.
I am deeply thankful for the hand of God in my life as He led me to my wife Karen. As a young man I remember well a church leader praying for God’s provision for me of the woman He had prepared to be my wife. Less than two months later Karen walked into my life, a brand new Christian and I have never doubted that she was God’s answer to my prayer.
Marriage has a different meaning altogether when God is in it!
God also gives us an inspiring portrait of marriage as the foundational pillar of any successful society.
Through Moses, God speaks of the importance of Dad and Mum raising their children in His ways and the direct flow on this has for society – the community that is built around God’s principles “will live long and be successful.”
It is a portrait that specifically highlights the crucial role that fathers play in raising their children.
I read recently of a study that has found that there is a direct connection between a child’s physiological development and the absence of a father.
In other words, remove Dad from the scene and a child’s physical development is negatively affected.
So when I reflect on God’s vision for marriage I discover that the word means so much more than a mere “social institution” between “a man and a woman”, consisting of legal and religious requirements.
God’s vision for marriage is that it both undergirds and transforms our society and it is a vision that I think we need to re-capture.
It is a divinely inspired vision that lifts marriage out of the mire of what we think it is and instead, is grounded in a conversation which God began in the first place.