Father’s love and affirmation is vital

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SINGER-SONGWRITER David Meece has produced some profoundly moving songs over his long career, many of them telling the story about his struggles with his self-worth.

If you have ever attended a Meece concert you will know that he intersperses his music with deeply personal illustrations about growing up in a family with an alcoholic father.

One of the most powerful of these is when he tells of the night that his father, in a drunken rage, drove the family car through the wall of David’s bedroom.

His father staggered out of the wreckage, held a shotgun to David’s head, stared into his eyes and said, “You’re worthless…”

When David Meece recounts this story he points out that those words were more devastating to him than had his father actually pulled the trigger.

You can hear the pain that it caused Meece through his song, When I was Seventeen:

My daddy left home when I was a kid
Said he had to move on
He took the bottle as his only friend
I didn’t know why, I didn’t know why

Mama tried to do the best that she could
But she just didn’t understand
All the confusion I was feeling inside
I didn’t know why, I didn’t know why

Feeling so alone
How I wish back then I’d known
When I was seventeen

From study hall to the senior prom
I felt like no one at all
And just a shadow in a crowded room
I didn’t know why, I didn’t know why

David Meece carried the scars of his father’s deadly words for years and despite his fame and success as a musician, they crippled him.

And many of you reading this column right now can relate to Meece’s pain.

But then something brought a radical change to Meece’s heart. He discovered the deep, deep love that God had for Him.

He discovered he wasn’t worthless but precious in God’s eyes.

He discovered what many others have discovered – that God loved him for who he was and that He called him “son”.

David Meece discovered that God was his Father and that he would never be rejected by Him.

In his song, My Father’s Chair, he contrasts the love of his Father God with the abandonment that he felt from his earthly father:

Sometimes at night I’d lie awake
Longing inside for my father’s embrace
Sometimes at night I’d wander downstairs
And pray he’d returned, but no one was there.
Oh, how I’d cry, a child all alone
Waiting for him to come home.

My father’s chair, sat in an empty room
My father’s chair, covered with sheets of gloom
My father’s chair through all the years
And all the tears I cried in vain
No one was there in my father’s chair.

Sometimes at night I dream of a throne
Of my loving God, calling me home
And as I appear, He rises and smiles
And reaches with love to welcome His child
Never to cry, never to fear
In His arms, safe and secure.

My Father’s chair sits in a royal room
My Father’s chair holds glory beyond the tomb
My Father’s chair, my God is there
And I am His eternal heir
Someday I’ll share my Father’s chair.

Study after study reiterates that a father’s love and affirmation is vital for the healthy emotional development of a child.

Many of us understand the feeling of being abandoned by our natural fathers.

And the scars and pain of this loss can be carried well into our adult years.

But here is good news!

God longs to be your heavenly Father and when you turn to Him in simple trust and faith, He accepts you as a treasured son or daughter.

You can be His much loved son or daughter –now that is reason to celebrate this Father’s Day!?