This message was preached at Woodvale Baptist Church on Sunday the 7th of May 2017.
“I HAS NO REGRETS!”
If you have seen the film, The BFG, you will know that this is the response of the evil, human-eating giant, Fleshlumpeater, when he is asked by Sophie if he is sorry for all the bad things he has done.
Regret is one of those emotions that eats away silently at our souls and rare indeed is the person who has no regrets.
Regret is so damaging to our well-being it compelled one author to state:
Regret empties anticipation, flattens dreams, and suffocates hope, because regret is a form of self-punishment … regret beats us up with the past.
I have come to realise that I have lived for far too long with many regrets and like the quote above says, they have beaten me up.
Many of you reading this understand precisely what I mean.
A father and son argue heatedly with each other and the father shouts out, “You’re not my son! I disown you!”
The door slams furiously as the son walks out and father and son never speak to each other again.
In the midst of a tense confrontation a husband spits out at his wife, “I wish I had never married you” and he opens a wound of rejection in her that may never heal.
A young girl rues the day she gossiped behind her friend’s back, wishing she could have the moment over, to take it all back.
Or a demanding mother with high expectations for her children makes it clear that she regards them as “failures” and an embarrassment to her.
Regret comes in all sizes, takes many forms and more often than not, it involves broken relationships.
Regret keeps us up at night, forcing us to maintain a sleepless vigil as we rehearse our failures and shortcomings over and over in our minds.
Bear in mind, I am not talking about hindsight.
Hindsight is that wonderful gift which enables us to process the mistakes from our past in a healthy way and, importantly, to learn from them.
I remember the time I stuck my finger into a live electrical light socket at my grandmother’s home, wondering what would happen.
I soon learned and the subsequent jolt I received taught me a valuable lesson: “I will never do that again!”
Hindsight enables us to learn from our past mistakes.
Regret wants to keep us imprisoned by them.
Consider then, how Jesus deals with regret.
On that first Easter, there are regrets aplenty!
Judas, betrayer of Jesus, filled with remorse, dies a lonely, despairing death by his own hand.
Peter is humiliated and ashamed.
Once the proud boaster who said he would follow Jesus anywhere and even die with him, he is haunted by the words that fell from his lips, three times, no less:
“I do not know the man!”
And two walk a dusty road together, filled with sorrow over the death of Jesus and what might have been.
But in the middle of all this sorrow, Jesus bursts out of the grave alive, confronting everyone’s regret and changing things forever.
Peter is restored.
Two travellers have their hope renewed.
Disciples are commissioned.
“The time for regret is over” says Jesus. “Now take this message of hope to the whole world!”
Here is what I am discovering.
I do not have to be held hostage by my regrets!
Because not only did Jesus die for my past mistakes, he completely obliterated them – and yours – when He rose from the dead!
In that decisive act, our past failures were dealt with once and for all and he has given us new life.
This changes everything, including our relationships.
We cannot change the past, but we can live free from it.
And we change our present when we rest in the fact that because of Jesus, regret can no longer “beat us up!”
IN NOVEMBER, 1990 I was standing in Pearl Harbour listening to an elderly, retired United States navy man tell his story about the day the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbour.
I had joined a free, guided tour around the harbour and the scene of the United States’ entry into World War Two.
Our guide was around 19 years of age at the time of the attack and as he retold his story the day I was there, he also spoke of the anger and rage he felt as he fired round after round into the sky at enemy planes.
Then he said something that caught my attention.
“Folks”, he asked kindly, “Have you ever felt like you are out of the will of God?”
Given the silence of the rest of the group around me, he obviously had their attention as well!
He went on to explain that in that very moment of anger, death and destruction, he knew he was out of the will of God!
Quite a statement from an elderly man to a group of tourists.
He then told us how he had signed up to the navy despite the fact he knew God had called him to be a preacher.
So, upon the conclusion of the War, having been discharged from the Navy, he obeyed God and became a Presbyterian minister for the rest of his life.
Then came the punchline to his story.
He went on to tell how one of the Japanese pilots bombing Pearl Harbour also became a committed Christian and minister after the war.
Decades later, the two former enemies met with the Japanese pastor preaching in the old navy man’s church in Hawaii!
As he brought his story to its conclusion, he held up a photograph of the two men, once alienated by culture, hatred and ideology, now embracing each other and reconciled before the Cross that stood in the church.
Every one of us is living in a world divided bitterly along racial, political and ideological lines.
News services bring us reports every day of nations at war with each other or the latest violent protest over an unpopular decision.
And we read of relational breakdowns in marriages and families that all too often end with murder or suicide as the only “solution”.
Russian author, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, once commented:
“If only it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.”
When a marriage breaks down, it is all too easy to blame the other person, thinking he or she needs to change.
But as Solzhenitsyn points out, “good and evil” courses through the heart of every human being.
Blaming the other person will not reconcile us.
Ignoring or trying to change the past will not reconcile us.
Mere words will not reconcile us.
But Jesus will.
That is the point of the Cross. There a dying thief finds reconciliation and peace with God.
There a man, Peter, who denies his Lord, finds reconciliation.
And there I have found peace and reconciliation – with my sin, my past, with people and with God. I still struggle a lot and I don’t always love people as well as I should.
But I know this: reconciliation begins with me, reaching out to people who at times both annoy and drive me crazy but with the sincere hope that perhaps they will see Jesus in me and be reconciled to Him.
Is your marriage in trouble?
My prayer for you is that you will ask Jesus to bring His peace to your hungry and wounded soul.
Then take the first step yourself to reconcile with your husband or wife.
FOR A FEW YEARS now my wife Karen has selected a word to meditate upon and use as a theme for her life throughout the year to come. It is an enriching experience because it serves to focus her thoughts, prayers and actions at a personal level and in her relationships with others, including me!
As I reflect on my own life over the past twelve months, the word “enough” is a great description of how my life has been.
During this past year, God led me into the wilderness again, and along the way, He turned my thoughts to Psalm 63, written by David when he too, found himself in the wilderness.
David recalls moments when he has seen God’s power and glory – God Himself – in the house of worship (verses 2-5). He writes,
“I have beheld…your power and your glory…”
“What was it he saw?” I wonder. “And when have I seen evidence of God’s power and glory in my life?”
More importantly, David saw God in the sanctuary. I take this to mean that God Himself is the One we seek, a greater blessing by far than His acts of power and glory.
So right there in the wilderness, David chooses to praise and rejoice in God. His will be a life of constant praise and of giving glory to God with his words and songs. And the reason for all of this is a quite remarkable statement in verse 3-
“Because your love is better than life…”
To know the love of God in your life, and the peace, comfort and security this brings, is a greater gift than life itself, even in the wilderness. For David, this is enough –
“God Himself is enough for me and my soul is satisfied.” (v5)
The message for me was straightforward enough: “No matter what I might be facing right now, God is all I need!”
The Christmas/New Year period can be a very lonely one fore many people. They suffer through the break up of a marriage, family or friendship that “came out of left field!”
“I didn’t see it coming…” is a sad, but often heard refrain from many broken-hearted souls.
The devastation of losing someone that you had invested yourself in so completely can leave you feeling as if you will never recover or be a whole person again.
If that is you right now, I want you to know that there is real hope. Your circumstances may not change, but I can assure you that God has not forgotten you, He loves you deeply and He can be enough for you.
I am learning, in my times of being in the wilderness, to choose
To live a life of constant praise to my Father and to thank Him every day.
To live my life for His glory.
Above all, to rest in the peace, comfort and security of God’s love for me.
In the wilderness, I find I am able to tell God how much I love Him; I can thank Him for every good gift in my life – His love, family, friends, life itself – and for teaching me again about humility and my need to depend utterly on Him.
In this my soul is satisfied – in and with God Himself.
He is enough … and He can be enough for you!